The phrase “be safe” makes me cringe. I’m reflecting on some of the ways that I’ve defied that sentiment in my adult life and how getting outside of my comfort zone has always paid off in the end.
There’s a two-word phrase that’s come up a lot since 2020, and it makes me cringe every time I hear it: be safe. I’m reflecting on some of the ways that I’ve defied that sentiment in my adult life and how getting outside of my comfort zone has always paid off in the end. I also touch on my experience at the LifeWave Global Convention that I went to recently and my thoughts on becoming a grandma at the end of September.
Learning more about light therapy and getting involved with LifeWave has been one of the greatest ways that I’ve challenged the status quo. Research shows that light therapy helps to decrease pain and inflammation and increase blood flow, and I believe that LifeWave has the most effective and affordable solution out there. In today’s episode, I highlight how incorporating the LifeWave patches into my wellness routine has impacted my life and what I think about the future of effective medicine.
As always on this show, I like to be honest about the lessons that I’ve learned throughout my life and embrace the challenges that have been thrown my way. I share a major regretful decision that I made when I was about to graduate college, and how that experience informed my relationship to risk and safety as I got older. Plus, I talk about some things that are shaking up my world right now and how I’m approaching those milestones and events.
Listen in to hear my thoughts about why I don’t believe in living a “safe” lifestyle and what I’ve learned by taking risks throughout the years.
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Dana Frost 00:07
Welcome to Vitally You, a podcast created to introduce you to the tools that will be your roadmap for feeling younger while growing older. I'm your host Dana frost, a wellness expert, life coach and energy medicine practitioner. Here's what you can expect conversations about vitality from the inside out with guest experts in the field of health, culture and spirituality, and solo episodes along the way from me where I do deep dives into the topics of aging, heart intelligence, energy, medicine, and your innate capacity to heal. If you want to feel younger, while growing older, this is the place for you.
Dana Frost 00:52
Hi, everyone. This is Dana frost, your host of the Vitally You podcast coming to you from Chicago this week for a very special solo episode. Recently, our friends who have lived in Southeast Asia for decades were in Chicago and we had a lovely catch up. While we were walking to dinner, we started talking about the pandemic and this phrase that kept repeating itself and continues to do so. Can you guess what the phrases? Well, I was totally fired up talking to my friend about this particular phrase and how it's impacted culture. And we shared similar ideas. So are you ready? Drumroll please, anyone I can do a drumroll. The phrase is you're ready. Be safe. Let that sit with you for a moment. How many times have you heard that phrase since 2020? It makes me cringe. How about you? I don't want to be safe. Don't tell me to be safe. I want to live at least somewhat dangerously. Being safe will keep your life small and boring. There are no rewards for life lived in a bubble. I don't want to be well preserved. When I come to the end of my days. I want my body, mind and soul to say ha we live every moment to the fullest. We are complete. We drained your human energy potential. I want battle wounds that show redemption and healing. But wait, let's not dive into this conversation yet. I would like to start with a few updates. Okay. lifewave biohacking. And are you ready for this big news header? I'm going to be your grandma in about a month. How cool is that? More about that new role I'm
Dana Frost 02:43
going to be playing at the end of the episode. So I'm recording this episode coming off the lifewave Global convention in Orlando. And you've heard me talk about lightwaves light therapy patches, that among many biological processes. The most important are the two patches that activate your body's stem cells. So what do you know about stem cells, stem cells can become any cell in the body. They have tremendous healing capacity to clean up oxidative stress, heal areas where there's been trauma, rapid wound healing, and rapid wound relief, skin remodeling, improved body composition, sleep and decreased pain. They're not magic bullets. We always like to say proper hydration, nutrition and movement are always key components to helping the body the immune system and helping the body heal. But a lack of stem cell activity is one reason we do not heal as quickly as we age and it is one reason why we age. Lack of stem cell activity contributes to sagging, dry skin, loss of hair, decreased libido, lack of stamina and brain power. Stem cell activity is essential for feeling younger while growing older from a physical perspective. So I've had an at home Light Therapy Device since I was trying to remember I think 2015 A very good friend of mine, Heather Parkin, the owner of Bend yoga mats era Vedic hand woven hand dyed yoga mats, you'll want to look them up, share this technology with me, you will see that the research on light therapy to decrease pain decrease inflammation and increased blood flow is a very well documented. The very cool distinction I will tell you with lifewave patches and the way that they use light therapy in the body is that they use the body as the energy source the body the light body or the heat in your body is the energy source. There's no plugging in. It's actually patch boom, go. These patches are also they're not transient. More. They're not putting anything into the body. Rather, they're stimulating the body's own natural resources to wake up and get going. I visualized them as jumper cables for the body. Because you know what the body has everything that needs to heal. It's just that everything's become tired, worn out droopy and needs an electrical buzz.
Dana Frost 05:24
And you will know I've talked about going to the Biohacking Conference last year, actually, I think the weekend I went last year is the weekend I launched this podcast, stem cells are all the rage and current medical trends. And you can pay 1000s of dollars to have your stem cells collected from fat tissue, they take it out, they treat it and then they re inject it where the body needs it. I looked into this technology for my mom and discovered really at the end of the day, it was too expensive, and there are no guarantees. The results can be either life changing or disappointing. I see the beauty of lifewave patches. One we have clinical studies, independent studies and studies from our labs. Those studies back up the claims of what we say likely patches can do and there's a money back guarantee on all first time orders. How cool is that? There is a money back guarantee you don't get that from any other stem cell therapy. And why is this important enough for me to spend time on my podcast talking to you because I'm not my podcast isn't about selling lightweight patches.
Dana Frost 06:32
But it is because light therapy is the future of effective medicine. I believe that our run with conventional model is wearing than conventional model or conventional medicine does not have the solutions for our modern day, chronic conditions. I think one of those reasons is that we've abused pharmaceuticals and we produce superbugs and bacteria. And the body in its natural state doesn't recognize some of the pharmaceuticals, our body is crying out for nature to solve our modern day problems. And I don't want to forget that our bodies are really struggling to digest and be fueled by the modern industrial food supply. You'll see if you look at graphs that as we've used, particularly round up, and the increase in industrial food. And just the increase in chemicals and toxins that we are exposed to, you'll see that our chronic health conditions have increased in line with our exposure to all those things. I believe it's vitally important that now is the time to take dominion over your health. And I really believe light therapy is supporting this mission.
Dana Frost 07:57
Healing at the speed of life is now available through lifewave patch technology. Okay, so I'm going to do a webinar on September 6, mark your calendars save the date at 7pm Central Time. And if you would like to learn how you can benefit from the patches, I will see you there you need to reach out to me to get the information actually, I can post that in the show notes. Okay. Moving onward to the Biohacking Conference hosted by Dave Asprey in Beverly Hills, September 15. I want to know if you're going please reach out to me, I'm going alone at this point, and I would be delighted to meet up with you. It's really no fun to go to a convention alone if you're an introvert and that is me. And along those lines, when this show posts, the CIO episode, my husband and I will be in Seattle, on our way to another one of Dave Asprey, his programs, the 40 years of Zen. Now I've been curious about brain mapping for years. And when I attended a workshop about this program, I just knew it was for me, I was going to do everything to make it happen. So this is what we're going to be doing. Probably the week that you're listening to this episode, if you listen to them when they're posted. We're going to be spending five days not nights, but five days in a pod, in our own individual pod with our brains wired and analyzed for optimal performance. And we're going to learn how our brain is operating and how to tweak and optimize it. It's gonna be I'm kind of scared actually. I don't think my husband needs his brain optimized. I think I need to get a little edge on him.
Dana Frost 09:38
I will definitely share about my experience on a future solo podcast episode. And this leads me to our be safe mentality sweeping the culture. Well, let's just start with this decision to analyze my brain under a man microscope. Honestly, I'm intimidated. It's not necessarily unsafe. But it's fear inducing, because I'm moving into unknown territory, I am making myself vulnerable, allowing the strangers to see exactly what's happening in my brain. I don't know what's happening in my brain. So it's intimidating. And when we talk about feelings of safety or being safe, you know, when we want to be safe, we're in defined boundaries, and there's a level of control. There's limited exposure to unknown circumstances, people or experiences, and I'm moving into this week of having my brain under a microscope. This is an unknown circumstances.
Dana Frost 10:39
Living life under a premise of safety is a life that will be limited in scope. And that's okay, if that's what you want. But examine the premise that guide your lifestyle, so you don't end up with regrets. I'm going to share one of my regrets. Maybe it's my first regretful decision I made as an adult, okay, it's from my senior year in college. You might remember because I've definitely shared this in an episode before that. I always from as long as I can remember how to dream from my Midwestern upbringing of being a global citizen, traveling the world living abroad, speaking a different language. And it definitely was solidified in my seventh grade French class. So my senior year in college, you know, I was finalizing my degree in social work. I applied for the Peace Corps. That makes sense, social work, and wanting to be a global citizen. And I was accepted. And I can remember looking at that acceptance letter with trepidation. No one in my family, to my knowledge had ever traveled abroad at that time.
Dana Frost 11:50
In my mind, I thought, no one's going to support me, and they're not even going to comprehend my decision. So do you know what I did? It hurts to say this, but I tore it up. And I can't say I never talked about it again. But I really rarely ever mentioned it again, maybe until I was a life coach, and I maybe wrote about it. At that point in my life, I didn't have the courage to go where no one I knew had been. And so I stayed safely tucked away. Deep down inside, I knew it was a decision that I would regret. But I couldn't even fathom the steps I would need to take to make it happen. From that point onward, I would do my best to confront my fears, head on and push myself beyond my safe harbor. And let's begin with being safe in relationships.
Dana Frost 12:37
Because I met my husband, I had just graduated and I was working in Kansas City. We had been introduced by mutual friends earlier. I don't really remember that he does. What I can say he was intrigued by me. And he looked me up. Except there was one minor detail. By the time he actually had the opportunity to ask me on a date, he was transferred from the city where we were living. Now, if I would have played it safe, I would have said, Oh, no, you're moving. No reason to try this out. Go on to Minneapolis. I'll stay here. Nice to meet you.
Dana Frost 13:12
This isn't gonna work. Be safe, and see you later. instead. I was like, Okay, let's see what happens here. He kept coming back, like every weekend, and the rest is history. Being safe, actually makes no sense to the survival part of your brain. So in essence, you have to move against your own survival instincts as you move beyond safety. And I can tell you dating my husband at that time, it made no sense to my brain. I was young single live in a new city. But I thought why not? I hadn't dated in a while. Let's see. He likes me. Let me see what happens. Let's see how this goes. Many of you may remember, I'm sure many of you will remember the movie. Yes man, Jim Carrey's character who decides to say yes to everything, saying yes implies that you are going to go places, you're going to move beyond self imposed boundaries, and you're going to take risks. If I would have been safe. I wouldn't have adopted two children while living abroad when I already had three. Who does that? Somebody who's not trying to play life safely.
Dana Frost 14:23
I wouldn't have moved abroad in the first place. Heck, I found my wings living in foreign countries navigating foreign languages, cultures, streets, and guess what getting lost. I wouldn't have kept my daughter home when I wanted to send her to a boarding school. I know it's embarrassing to admit that, but it's true. I learned so much from our decision to take emotional risks and relationships. But it's really really hard. It's not for the faint hearted. You will hurt others and you will be hurt. But guess what you also learn how to compromise forgive and begin again. Be Safe prohibits risks and relationships. Because when you rope in the human, it gets really risky. I experienced in my adult life, what felt like a seismic blow to my emotional stability. It felt like the floor beneath my feet collapsed. I did not feel safe. I felt destroyed.
Dana Frost 15:28
However, through that relationship experience, guess what I discovered, I discovered the depths of forgiveness. I discovered that restoration is possible. And I discover that a relationship that has been broken can be born again. All of that was way outside of my safety zone. Be safe goes against everything that shaped my life. And I think that's why that phrase, that two word phrase makes me cringe. We moved into the city in Minneapolis to live in a neighborhood, the neighborhood of our church as a young newly married couple. It was not considered a safe neighborhood. Actually, we were blocks from where George Floyd was killed. We love that neighborhood. It was alive with people from all walks of life. But as I said, it wasn't the safest neighborhood we could have chosen.
Dana Frost 16:34
I don't understand, be safe, what's trying to be preserved when we say be safe. If you are safe, you never discover your power or how far you can go. You never ever are going to discover your resilience or bounced back. Okay, you could probably conclude what I'm about to say about myself. I'm disclosing that we were not helicopter parents. I was not a helicopter parent. My husband and I are opposites on so many levels. But in the parenting game, oh my gosh, we are harmonized. When we move back to the US after living abroad for 10 years. Our oldest was 16. And our youngest was I don't know if she was eight or nine. But she was in the third grade. She was at the very end of third grade. These helicopter parents I met were freaking aliens to me, I experienced a crazy episode of reverse culture shock. The world of parenting that I grew up in was dead. The free range parenting of my youth was nowhere to be seen. Today's kids were fully monitored, protected and programmed 24/7 Where were all the kids to play with my in the neighborhood to play with my kids. My neighborhood was full of kids, but they were all tucked away, safely protected in organized programming. We were the parents who sent our kids on an overnight flight with our oldest daughter, who had just finished fifth grade, by the way, as the lead chaperone. Because you know what my husband and I were back in Brazil, we had to stay in Brazil with the two young children we adopted, we couldn't take them to the US for six weeks, that would have been really overwhelming. But our three other kids really wanted to go back to the US and see their grandparents and their family and friends. My goal was not focused on keeping my kids safe, but rather on seeing how far they could go and grow. Okay, I'm on the other side of this. So it's easy for me to say but I can tell you my oldest actually all my kids. But this oldest who was in charge, she's rocking it as an adult, she found her wings early and took flight. The only way to find your wings is to set sail. The only way for kids to find their wings is to set sail alone without mom and dad. And there's no guarantee in the leap.
Dana Frost 19:04
But there's tremendous growth, even if you fall. I didn't want them to fall or fail. And most of the time they succeeded. And we did have an incident with our third daughter we sent her after her freshman year I think in high school we sent her to Peru, by herself to spend time with my beloved soul sister Hasina, who is from the mountains of Peru. And we sent her alone and actually it was quite a challenging trip for her. She, you know, move through that she came home with bedbugs. She got bacteria in her food. And the trip was really, really challenging for her but she wanted, you know, in a broad experience and I'm like I don't need to pay $10,000 to send you on one of those fancy smancy programs that the rich kids go on. No, you get to go With our beloved friend.
Dana Frost 20:03
Anyway, I want us to take a look at the definition of safe because you know what this seals my case, safe, additive, free from danger or injury, on damaged or on hurt, not exposed to the threat of danger or harm. Okay, well, let's just see that removes biking it removes skiing it removes so many of the activities that we love and enjoy, undamaged or unhurt. I am damaged and I've been hurt. My emotional wounds are the gemstones in my crown. Here is a secret. The human is built to heal and survive. We are deeply rooted in resilience. People, the entire root system of the Earth is a support system designed to hold you look up the entire cosmos is made of divinity stars, the sun, the moon, angels, light beings,
Dana Frost 21:10
there's so much support love and light for you. We don't have to live a safe life. Let's look at not exposed to the threat of danger or harm. Okay, who can live without the threat of danger or harm? Impossible? Step out your door and the possibility of harm exist. So how about you? Are you leading your life with safety or risk? What's outside your comfort zone? What baby step can you take to move beyond your bubble? How has safety or risk shaped your life? I would love to hear from you. These one way conversations get lonely. It might even be fun to share your story on the podcast who's down for that? Let's share some risky stories. Feeling younger, while growing older implies moving beyond a be safe lifestyle. Because in order to feel younger, you have to live life differently.
Dana Frost 22:08
The culture feels older, growing older, culture accepts decline as a part of aging culture accepts that life whittles itself down little by little with time instead of expansion. Expansion is found outside the safety zone. Who is with me in the danger zone? Okay, let's move on to my new role. Grandma. We are all obsessed with babies and the frost family. You should check the direct messages between myself and my daughters. It's all baby stuff. And people keep asking me, What are you going to be called? I don't know, grandma. If you have any clever ideas, send them my way. I'm looking for my title. Well, okay, so towards the end of September, I'm going to be coming to you from my daughter and son in law's home in San Francisco because I'm going to be right beside them helping her my role really is take care of my daughter. I know what it's like to give birth and it is not easy, and I am just ready to step up and be her wing woman. Okay, this also leads me to my one year anniversary, mid September of the vitally you podcast. I want to know what would you like to hear from me? What topics do you want me to talk about on so episodes? And is there a guest you'd like to hear from? Maybe you want to be your best and tell me your risky story. I welcome your ideas.
Dana Frost 23:39
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